Sometimes members assume that the lack of a blessing is the result of a person's unrighteousness, and occasionally they can say things without considering others' feelings. At times all I can do is remind myself that the Church exists as a means of helping imperfect people become perfected through the Atonement of Christ. Other times I find that I can do more than this. Many married people do not know how to talk about singlehood. They do not have concepts or experiences that express what it is like.
Once, in a public setting, a local church leader made a remark about my marital status that left me embarrassed. Wanting to resolve the situation and also treat him with respect, I called him a week or two later. I told him that I was glad that he was concerned about my welfare, and I hoped he would feel comfortable talking with me about my marital status. It turned out that he was unsure how to bring up the subject. I suggested that in the future, instead of doing it the way he had, he could ask me—privately—"What have you been through?" "How do you feel about it?" and "Is there anything I can do to help?" In this manner, we established a means by which we could talk about this topic.
gratitude and love for this brother who was trying to repair any damage he had caused.